Fall in Love for Moslem Teenagers

Love is like a butterfly

If you are more to chase it, it become more restrain and go away from you

But, if you let it fly

They will close open to you

With a quite heart, pure soul, it will come to you gladly in unsuspected way

Analogy of Love

Love is one of awards from God which is given by God for humans. Soft and abstract are characteristics of love. Love is beautiful, like beautiful butterfly’s wings when it is flapping, love will show a variety of colors. Sometimes happy, sad, hard, flowery, drifting even fell in pain and ended up disappointed. Inevitably also become a force in life to stand upright facing the waves of life. That's called "the power of love".

This soft thing is often unconscious to feel into the heart. Next, as I told earlier that the name of love is nature and grace which is given by God to human. A Messenger of Allah also encourages us to give our love and affection to our fellow human beings.

From Umar Ibn al-Khattab ra said: "The Messenger of Allah said:" Surely Allah settled some slave there are people who do not belong to the class of the prophets and the shaheed, but both these groups want to get a position as their position in the sight of Allah." Asked one: "O Messenger of Allah, who they and what their deeds are?" Word His: "They are people who love each other with each other, even though there is no blood relationship between them and also treasures. By Allah, their faces radiate light, they are above the pulpits of light, and they will not be scared and hard."

Then the Prophet recited the word of Allah which means: "Remember, verily saints of God, there is no fear come upon them nor will they grieve." (Hadith narrated by Abu Nu'aim in the book Al Hilya vol 5)

Furthermore, love that I mean is not only arises between a man and a woman, but also it is owned by everyone. Besides love can becomes an ill if love grows in wrong way. Basically, it is natural; if every male attracted to female. Otherwise female/women attracted to male/men. It is the humane thing and should happen to us too. But, this human instinct can be exposed gust of devil if there is some opportunity. For example is often to make friends, meeting and there is gaping hole for gusts of devil. Therefore, who often meet increasingly be happy to meet. From that reason, as intellect generation we must know about rule of relationship in Islam.

Well, as the intellect Muslim generation, we should know how the laws of our religion view the close-relationship of opposite gender. Relationship of opposite gender is just two kinds. The first is according to Islam which is appropriate with Islam and another is inappropriate with Islam. Please be aware, there is not “Islamic Courting/Dating” term and there is not friend but intimate too. Appropriate relationship according to Syari’a between opposite gender are not breaking the boundaries of social gathering among opposite gender; no indulgence in view each other, not being alone together, not mixed, not to communicate intimately, not traveling alone together and so on. While that inappropriate with Syari'a is in violation of the above matters, whatever the recognition of the culprit; whether they are admitted dating, whether they are evasive or claimed to be just friends.

Have a boyfriend, certainly should not be! Just for friends? It's the way it is. But, there is a higher value than just friends, the Brotherhood. We are all brothers and sisters in one belief.

"A Muslim is a brother of another Muslim." (Narrated by Muslim)

Then, how to build a safe relationship between girl and boy according to Islam? It is an obligation; we keep and help each other. The forms of this help are:

a.      Subduing our view.

b.     Use syar’i clothes.

c.      If inviting or invited/asked to converse, just enough in simple converse.

d.     For sisters: do not talk with the lilting tone.

e.      Not cheek by jowl with each other.

Hopefully with what we believe can give us an understanding and patience in all things. And we need to remember that, whoever gives up something because of God, He will replace it with better something than it. Remind about friend that you love today is not certain to be your match in the future.